Friendly reminder here. There are times when we wonder if anyone really loves us. Ever feel that way? We want to believe it, and yet there can be this little voice inside that tells us they really don’t. It tells us that everyone out there has their own best interest in mind, that they’re only being nice, but when push comes to shove they’re just giving us lip service.
I’m here to tell you that getting a handle on that voice is totally an inside job. There is absolutely nothing you can do to shut it up permanently, but you can certainly turn down the volume and add a new character. The Self Love Queen, yes, that’s what I’m talkin’ about.
You see, if you begin practicing self-love, you start to notice it everywhere. People respond to you differently. Nice things happen. You get bonus gifts from the universe and happy surprises. Dogs and babies flirt with you, and your popularity gets a major boost.
Think about it. Why the hell would you like someone who doesn’t even like themselves? Tough to do, right?! Sure, you can like them a bit, pity them some, and even get your inner martyr stoked on saving them from their own self loathing, but do you really want to hang out with them much? It’s depressing because no matter how much love you send their way, they cannot and will not soak it up. A person who doesn’t love themselves can’t receive more love then they have their inner barometer set for. It’s similar to water. It seeks it’s own level.
That said, the most efficient way to love and be loved is to work out your self love muscles. Practice doing nice things for yourself. Force yourself to look in the mirror and deliver a genuine compliment. If you can’t find anything right, then make it up until you can muster some belief about it. Take some extra time caring for that precious body of yours and start feeding it some fresh, delicious food. Drink more water. Take a walk somewhere beautiful.
Give yourself a foot massage with some divinely scented lotion, and finally take a break and read that book you always wanted to read. When someone gives you a compliment, just say thank you. Mean it. Locate the place in your life where you feel short-changed and set about giving yourself more. Whether it’s more friendship, more free time, more laughter, more sex, more gifts, more appreciation…find a way to have more until you feel filled up. Then do it again.
The only way to receive more is to be a larger container for what you want to receive. Start flexing those love muscles, my friend, and see what happens. I’d love to hear about your experiences with this and how you opened your life to more love.