What’s Right With You?


Is there something right with me?  This is what I feel we could be asking.  It begs a whole different response from the universe. Too often I’ve heard the voice in my head asking what could be wrong with me.  Do you ever feel that way?  Do you feel that what’s going on around you seems so different from what you are experiencing that you start to think you just don’t fit in, you’re in the wrong place, from a different planet, or you’re simply clueless and can’t figure out this mysterious language everyone around you is speaking?

Lately, I’ve begun to see clues that reflect I’m not defective, but rather that those inner understandings were way, way ahead of their time.  People are suddenly saying things I was thinking years ago.  I feel affirmed.  I feel a bit disgusted that I didn’t believe in myself earlier. I’m wondering, actually, how long it will take them to start reflecting the things I’ve been intuiting more recently.  And I’ve been wondering how I can verbalize how I see things, what I’m feeling, and what it’s like for me now so I can head them off at the pass this time.

This is the beauty of healing and loving oneself.  I’m here to tell you that you can make this trip and it’s worth it.  You can begin to replace the question of what’s wrong with you, with finding ways to agree with the perfection and exquisite beauty of exactly who you are and how you are in every single moment.

You may have some deep conditioning around how bad you are when you get angry, because nice girls don’t do that.  Or perhaps you see all the ways you could have handled a situation better, and you’re busy getting down on yourself for not knowing better.  The truth is that we cannot know better until we know worse.  Only in researching and failing do we learn and improve.  What matters is how we frame what occurred into a story that empowers rather than diminishes us.

How could you possibly know what you didn’t know?  Maybe this is a good place to begin.  Find yourself right.  Have some mercy on the moment, on your humanity, on the you that deeply cares.  If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t be so upset that you screwed up, or that you didn’t get it, or that you might have handled it a whole lot better.

Forgiving ourselves begins in a moment, when we can ask what’s right with us and give it a resounding ‘hell yeah’!  I offer the question now.  What’s right with you?

~Oceana LeBlanc is a transformational leader, women’s empowerment coach, tantric yogini, and shaman.


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7 Responses to “What’s Right With You?”

  1. Susan Says:

    Really enjoyed this, Oceana. What a beautiful post, spoken with truth and kindness. Those words ‘how we frame what occurred into a story that empowers rather than diminishes us’ really made me sit up and take notice! I love that! (I also shared a rueful smile at ‘I feel a bit disgusted that I didn’t believe in myself earlier.’ I’m so there with you!)


    • Oceana Says:

      Thanks so much for your thoughtful response, Susan! Yes, I’m hanging out on the thin branches with transparency here by admitting my disgust. 🙂


  2. Linda Ursin Says:

    Very sound advice. I’m glad I don’t have many of those.


  3. seonvenville Says:

    I love the title of this post – I’ve never considered this question in this way before. I totally relate to what you write of in your first two paragraphs. If only we trusted (& really tuned into) ourselves from day 1, what a different experience life would be from the get-go. But in saying that, I guess it is all part of the process..!


  4. Oceana Says:

    It’s part of the process, and as I read your response I’m wanting to affirm that the process itself is so precious when I relax into agreement with timing. So true! Thank you for your thoughtful response.


  5. seonvenville Says:

    relax into agreement with timing.. i like that. yes… 🙂


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