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Stuck On Repeat? Shake It Loose

April 22, 2019
I hope your Eostara/Easter/Resurrection weekend was as fabulous as you are.
Whether it was delicious, sweet, challenging, mediocre, or isolating, I know that your destiny points to the perfection of it all, even if you cannot see it yet.
Since it’s a time of brand new beginnings on the path to your ultimate destiny and life purpose (it said so in the stars), you may be wondering what the heck is in the way.
* Why are you still dealing with the same old pattern?
*What is it with the universe daring to withhold your abundant great stuff?
* Why are they getting theirs and I’m not getting mine?
Today, I will unpack exactly why you’re stuck on repeat, sweet sister.
There is a whole recipe for manifesting your most fulfilling life, stepping into synchronous bliss, and living life large with feminine aplomb.
So this one step I’m sharing with you, although it’s crucial like air and water, will only work if you’re working all of them.
However, I find this one really can be a stickler because it doesn’t ever go away.
In one word, it’s the almighty forgiveness factor.
You may say to yourself that you already said forgiveness prayers for those people, or you have a right to be angry, or maybe you’ve done all you could and they’re still a shit.
This is a wonderful place to begin….again.
Forgiveness is an ongoing process.
It begins with us.  It ends with us.  It’s about us, never about them.
Regardless of the heinous, misguided, horrific drama that played out with us feeling victimized, offended, traumatized or crushed like a gardenia under a cement block, the only way to unfuck ourselves in life is to forgive.
In order to forgive, sometimes we just have to step up into a higher view of the situation, look at where the source of another’s wounded behavior might have come from, and apply grace within ourselves over it.
And then rinse and repeat as many times as it surfaces inside of us as hurt or anger.
When we can surrender our ego to that extent, the universe has a wide open runway to propel so much abundance and good our way, it’s like the firehose of life has no off switch.
May you have the strength to forgive always and forever so that your magnificent blessings pour into your life unbound and in dizzying glory.
Forgiven,
Goddess Oceana
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Knitting As An Act of Passion

January 18, 2019

Recently I started to knit with a wild and fierce determination.

It could have been my passionate love for colors and my deep need for sensual touch that pointed me in the direction of soft, delicious yarns I could spend hours running over and around my skin.

It could have been the state of the world and a feeling that overcame me of needing to do something tangible that would lift spirits for more than a few minutes.

Maybe it was the budget my husband and I set for the holidays, and a deep desire to create meaningful gifts that didn’t cost a fortune, and demonstrated my love for people rather than the quick and easy obligatory shopping trip.

Perhaps it was the fact that I was detoxing from sugar, and keeping my hands busy with yarn while my mind was focused on prayer, distracting me from my usual trips to the cupboard for cookies.

And then there was the fact that my beloved little goddess doggie passed away after months of hospice, and I found it so powerfully comforting to receive a tiny crocheted bit of a prayer shawl from the Temple of Witchcraft ministry that I wanted to spread this love to others.

Maybe two decades of childrearing and keeping a house were coming to a close and I wanted somewhere to channel the grief of letting go while still feeling relevant and useful in the world.

It’s not that I was new to knitting or crocheting, sewing, or anything creative with my hands.  It was that I found myself determined to carve out a place for this in my life.  I wanted to complete projects rather than moving the basket around my house for fifteen years or so, thinking that someday I’d have time to finish that thing.

There is something so primal about knitting in a world where a machine made item can be spat out in minutes.  Primal, spiritual, and tangible.  And that translates to passion for me, because it combines the three ways in which we can align our energies in this world to truly rock our soul potential.

Whatever we doing in this world, the fires of passion will fuel our focused intention.  Seemingly small acts that are consistent will move mountains.

This passionate knitting habit looks so inconspicuous, but let me assure you, it’s a disguised sensual fire of world healing, from the inside out.

~Goddess Oceana is a Women’s Sensual Empowerment Expert, Shamanic Healer, and Goddess Oracle as well as an author and spiritual life coach.

You can find her knitting circle once a month in her healing office at Equinox Healing Arts, 85 Main St., Suite 303, Hopkinton, Ma., or leading a sacred ritual at the Goddess Circle.

 

Yule Enlightened

December 23, 2017

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In old tradition, long before Christianity, people would bring a tree into the house at this solstice, and decorate it with symbols of fruit, flowers, butterflies, birds, and snowflakes.
In this way, they showed their faith that summer and an abundance of food would come again.
This is much like the manifestation practice, where we plant the seed of our desire, and then act in full faith that it is absolutely coming to us.
People of old would sing and dance and drum as the Solstice Sun rose in the sky in honor of the returning light.
We take action and celebrate in advance for the good that is on it’s way.
In keeping with nature and the cycles of the seasons that are so essential in our lives, the celebration of Yule includes honoring the Sun God and the Dark God. The Dark God is simply the one that is with us as the days get shorter (not dark as in “evil” but dark as in literally shorter days of sunlight), and the Sun God is the returning of the sun in the sky for days that get longer and light that warms our earth and grows our food.
The myth of the Holly King passing into shadow so that the Oak King may rule this time of increase was honored by lighting the white Sun God candle from the flame of the black Dark God candle, and then snuffing out the black candle to signify this event.
(my synopsized version of information from a writing by Thuri Calafia).
I think people everywhere celebrate the returning of the light, in a multitude of ways.
Here, we can see how the Pagan traditions of old were used to inform (some say stolen, borrowed, transitioned into, etc.) the Christmas celebration and the Christmas tree, the celebration of the birth of the “sun god,” Jesus Christ the newborn Child of Light. You’ll find so many myths across all cultures that are versions of this story. People globally feel the universal archetypes and synchronize to the cycles of nature here on our Mother Earth.
I have great hope for the coming year and am planting the seeds of universal healing, holding the greater vision for a world where peace and love reign.
A part of that vision includes educating so that the scary stories and propaganda surrounding witchcraft and paganism are wiped away with sound understanding.
When we take the time to study and inform ourselves, the Sun is not the only light that returns.
We are literally returned into an enlightenment, where understanding leads to compassion, patience and love.
I’m wishing each of you a very blessed Winter Solstice, a gloriously Blessed Yule, a Very Merry Christmas, a sacred (even though it’s already over) Hanukkah, a beautiful Kwanzaa…and all of the other sacred traditions that make up our rich, abundant, and spectacularly magnificent world. 

~Goddess Oceana

All Those Lonely Men

December 15, 2017

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“This is for all the lonely people.”
I saw an elderly woman in a waiting room the other day. She was having a great time chatting everyone up. At first, people were giving her the side-eye, wondering if she was normal or a bit crazy, talking to all those strangers as if she were there friend.
Soon, though, one person began to warm up to her and responded, and they started talking. Others looked curious.
After a while, everyone was smiling and relaxing more in their chairs.
The scenario struck me as familiar in how I tend to move through the world, fortunate to have been raised by a mother who treated everyone as if they were her children. She was outgoing and friendly, and really didn’t think anything of talking to people around her. With that role model ( and often included in the conversations as a child) I find that I am the same way.


During this holiday season, it saddens me to think of so many who have no one to celebrate with, or who are experiencing such deep loss or suffering that the celebrations around them only seem to compound the loneliness.


I heard yesterday from Dr. Christiane Northrup who was doing a video, that men are 4% more likely to commit suicide, and 50% of men do not have a single close friend to talk to (from the Mask of Masculinity by Louis Howes).

It was quite shocking to me, that number.  I began to think about how much easier it seems for many women to create community around themselves, with that gatherer mentality. So I’m wanting to encourage men to reach out if they’re feeling isolated.
I have the honor of men writing to me, in my line of work, who are sincerely expressing their feelings and transparently tell me of their struggles. I feel especially humbled that they courageously risk and reach out, in a culture that does not encourage emotional transparency in males.
I opened my work to men recently, because although women’s empowerment has been my focus, I now realize that my original purpose of healing the feminine does not preclude men, but includes the feminine in all of us.
This morning, I’m thinking about how all of us, men and women, can stretch a little further into reaching out with caring and sensitivity to others during the holidays.
After all, we are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

Would love to hear from you in the comments.  What are some ways that you reach out or don’t reach out, and

~ Goddess Oceana

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Stuck in a Rut of Depression

December 8, 2017

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Someone recently said to me that she wanted to “transcend the mundane” and felt she was stuck in a rut of old, unhealthy patterns and dysfunction.  I thought about times when I was stuck and how it used to play out for me, and how it plays out now that I have almost forty years of deep personal work under my belt.

There’s a very clear difference.  Thirty-eight years ago, I knew I was at cause, but didn’t have the tools or skills necessary to understand the nuances of how to pull myself out, other than affirmations and an image board, journaling, and self-blame.  Way back then, I wasn’t as clear about how to distinguish being at cause about my entire reality versus being to blame for my entire reality.

So blaming myself when I couldn’t figure out how to make things better was my recourse, and it would spiral into the most excruciating depression, hopelessness, and longing to just make the pain stop…even fantasizing about and then attempting suicide.

Somehow my will to keep learning and persevering on the path of various transformational modalities began to pay off, and I got better at finding strategies to get myself aligned again.  The greatest learning about depression for me was to own my anger, my rage, my upset, and master how to express my boundaries in a safe and grounded way.  Once I began to express my anger by making requests of others that honored my newly discovered boundaries, I stopped turning my anger towards myself.

This took time, practice, and mistakes.  I failed a lot, and then learned from the failures.  I made a little progress each time.  Life began to improve, and as I stopped making other people’s wants far more important than my needs, I became a happier person. That’s one small  example of how I overcame a debilitating rut.

The various skills I’ve learned over the years I’ve tested repeatedly, and I continue to acquire more.  Mostly, I’ve come to realize that I love to learn, and so I honor that by diving into learning whatever it is I find fascinating.  It just so happens that all of it is in the realm of spirituality, transformation, psychology, relationship, sexuality, and esoteric studies.

The ruts I see my clients stuck in most often are the ruts of people-pleasing, not keeping their word (a basic tenet for becoming more powerful is to keep your word), a habit of putting other people first and getting lost in overwhelm, and or finding an old pattern of behavior they’re stuck in and not getting the energy healing necessary to break free from it.  These are all ways in which we sabotage ourselves, especially as women.

The good news is that self-love is the super vitamin that can make all healing possible, and it improves our lives dramatically.  And so I start there, with daily practices that infuse self-love and self-worth that begin to lift a person immediately from whatever rut they’re in.  Then we get into some nitty gritty pattern shifts and healing work.

Whatever rut you’re in, begin with self-love.  You can start by telling yourself that you love you very much, each and every day.  It can be that simple.  Let that love into your heart and feel it wrap around you like a soft, warm blanket.  Do it often and out loud.

Here’s to Loving You,

Goddess Oceana

Message me to schedule a fifteen minute call to find out how to work with me to live a happier, more fulfilling life.  I help women connect deeply to their inner spiritual guidance and become the sensual, powerful goddess they were meant to be while co-creating their deepest desires with the universe.

Email me:  Oceana@GoddessOceana.com

 

 

Would Anyone Miss You?

December 7, 2017

thoughtful-things-to-do-for-someone-with-migraines-720We all wonder who, if anyone, might miss us if we disappeared from the earth one day.  At least, I’ve pondered this.  But I don’t think I’m all that unique, because as human beings we all want to know that we matter, right?

So I was thinking about this today as I was thinking about you.  It occurred to me that when you don’t hear from me, you don’t message me to complain about it.  And that tells me something really important: that you’re not getting as much out of what I offer as I would like you to receive.

Why do I care?  Because I’m only here for a little bit longer, on this dirtball spinning around in the cosmos, a speck with a teensy life span in the huge picture of it all.  And it’s important to me to at least offer something back for this immense, magnificent gift called a lifetime.  I want, I need, I desire, I yearn to leave you with something more than having taken up space.

I’m thinking that we all want that in some way, and that we could do this together, this making a difference thing.  My joy is to inspire others and have a blast doing so.  I love it when someone is lit up and goes out to spread some love in the world, out of something I wrote or a conversation we had.

Today, I’m starting a New Year’s Resolution several weeks early.  I want you to miss me when I don’t show up.  I think that can happen if I share more of myself with you, and inspire you in some way to do that in your life.

If you stop to think about who might miss you if you weren’t present or forgot to write your blog entry, or missed the party, what one thing do you bring that noone else brings?

What is your gift of presence in the world?  What is unique to you that either lights up a room, or has others feeling especially loved or heart, or has them swooning from the taste of your special cookies?

And to answer these questions, I think you have to really reach a bit deeper and find what lights YOU up.  Because I guarantee that if you are honestly following your bliss in this world, then that bliss overflows and becomes the gift you bring better than anyone else.

Who would miss you, and what can you begin doing today that ensures you give that unique gift every single day for the rest of your life, like you really mean it?

Live your gifts out loud,

Goddess Oceana

 

How Do You Meet Desire?

August 31, 2017
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What do you deeply desire in your life that you don’t have?
What are you willing to do to have it?
I asked the universe for something and instead of immediate delivery, I received some powerful reflections that were painful for me.
This is often the case when we say we desire something, and are calling it into our reality.
We must become a match for that thing before it can come to us. Honestly, if we’re wondering why we don’t have what we want yet, it’s almost always because we haven’t made internal or external space for it, or because we aren’t in alignment with it in some way.
I am in such gratitude today for that discomfort I felt yesterday. Rather than choose to be a victim about it, which is the status quo for many who don’t realize their own power yet, I chose to look at the message, where I was responsible, and what I could do to further align myself to that juicy manifestation I wanted so much.
I allowed the Universe to speak to me, informing me in experiences of what needed to be overhauled before I could receive my desire.
Some powerful questions for the courageous manifester:
Where am I responsible in my ways of being, doing, thinking, and talking, that generated reflections of what I did not want?
What parts of this are in my control, and how can I shift my thinking or my way of showing up in the world that will align with what I do desire?
Is this a door closing because another better fit is beckoning? If so, am I grateful for the redirection, with open heart and joyful receiving for my true desires?
Do I truly want it, or am I just kind of wanting it? How powerful is my fire for this thing, and am I willing to do whatever it takes to meet the universe with action?
Is this a pattern when I review other times when there has been a similar feeling around a situation? If so, what is that pattern, what takes place, and how am I perpetuating it? How can I change this?
These are some questions that evoke the kinds of internal changes necessary for a powerful manifestation, the internal dialogue that will make the difference between having what you want and giving up, or blaming someone else that you can’t get it.
There are many ways to manifest, and many subtleties to the art of manifestation, and many schools of thought and discipline for it.
I pull from a great variety of those schools of thought in my work with people, integrating the tools that will resonate with the personality and level of experience. It’s always a unique co-creation to support someone in realizing their desires and expanding their soul’s growth edges.
Currently, I’m thinking about ways that I can support more women to hone their manifesting skills and really BE in their power.  I can only do so many one on one, personalized sessions with women.  So how can I bring these skills to those of you who can’t work with me privately for one reason or another?
My friend told me I should coach a group of women together, and I listened.
So I’m launching a coaching group for women who want something and haven’t been able to manifest it.
I’m excited about this, and can’t wait to share more about Divine Feminine Manifestation Mojo!
Stay tuned, Goddess.  More is coming very soon…
Love, Blissings, & Goddess Blessings,
Goddess Oceana
To work with me, email me at GoddessOceana@gmail.com and we’ll set up a 15 minute discovery session to see what I offer that will best serve you.
Photo Credit: Milia Poirier

A Pleasure Practice Tidbit That’s Not Frivolous

August 14, 2017
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Do you have any idea how important pleasure is?
I feel like a broken record sometimes, repeating myself about pleasure and how women absolutely must receive it on a daily basis.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t blame anyone for not understanding this concept immediately.  Our whole culture teaches us that pleasure is a frivolous pastime, and that only hard workers get theirs.
And guess who made this falsity up?  You got it, the patriarchy.  I’m not going to get all political on you, but I am going to be completely honest with you.  The masculine way is to power through things, but sweetest goddess, we are not men!
We’re women, divine and radiant, soft and curvy, emotive and passionate and vibrating with the power of Shakti, the Feminine Principle of God, Who absolutely demands pleasure in order for us to create.
Have I got your attention?  Oh good, because I’m on a mission here to wake you up, show you some new things, and hopefully to deposit you smack into the epicenter of your sacred power.
Today, have I ever got a new practice tool for you!
If you’re up for it, take some pleasure into every single day of your life.  It doesn’t matter where you start, either with a favorite food or a full out orgasm, and anything in between, but just please do it.
Take the time to savor receiving that pleasure deeply into your whole body, your psyche, your aura.  Let it engulf you, infuse you, introduce you to what you’re missing and what you need like you need air.
I hope to hear back from you that you’ve discovered something, and that you’re taking on these introductory tips I’m sending out regularly.
I’m having a blast ramping up to open registration for the upcoming brand new course I’ve created, Divine Feminine Sensual Power Online Course.
Registration opens soon!  To make sure you’re on the list to receive first notice, please  subscribe to my newsletter at www.goddessoceana.com.
Written With the Utmost Pleasure  ~Goddess Oceana

August 5, 2017
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Who is unaware of their power, deliciously magnetic, radiantly lovable, and devastatingly innocent?
Believe it or not, it’s you, my darling.  You could be thinking it’s true or it’s not, but I have reason to believe that unless you’re already a supremely adept magician, you don’t have much first-hand experience of your own brazen power.
And unless you’re thoroughly skilled as a courtesan or an utterly confident and self-realized woman, you just don’t have a deep awareness of your own radiance and magnetism.  Even though you have a delightful innocence about the reality of these truths, you’re still a walking, talking goddess on two hot legs with tremendous magickal powers.  You see, you cannot not be magnificent if you are a woman.  Period.
I could go on, but you get the picture.
So how does a woman get a feel for her power?  A clever way to begin is to pay attention to the words coming out of her mouth, tracking what she is thinking, and ferreting out deep, internal beliefs that could be lurking in that self-sabotaging mind.
Pay attention to the words you’re speaking…especially the mindless sayings,  or things you hear yourself repeat very often. Notice if what you’re saying is something you actually truly desire in your life, or not.
For instance:
“It’s killing me.”  Do you want it to kill you or is this a saying you picked up and just use?
“I’m so sick of this.”  Would you like to call sickness into yourself?
“What a pain in the neck/ass!”  How are your neck and ass feeling?  Do you ever notice neck pain or pain on your bottom, and do you have the slightest inkling it might be connected with your words?
You see, a combination of several things go into co-creating with the universal principles. When done in unison, they pack a whole bunch of power and it’s immediately sent out like fireworks to notify the universe to deliver that thing, whatever it might be.
So if you’re really upset and you keep saying something is a pain, the universe hears that like a command. The combination of firey, passionate expression and the power of the spoken word work like a charm, whether it’s one you want or not.
Try tracking this for a while and see if you notice any correlations.  This is just one tiny step in realizing your power to manifest everything you want in your life.
I’ll be sending more tips, so check your inbox for more emails from me as we gear up for the Divine Feminine Sensual Power Online Course.
Registration will be opening soon…if you want to receive notification when registration opens, be sure to sign up for my newsletter at www.goddessoceana.com.
Love, love, love~
Goddess Oceana

Pleasured

February 18, 2016

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Do you make time for pleasure in your life?

Recently I ran a short, five day challenge for women to immerse themselves in various kinds of pleasure.  It’s strange to think that simply generating some pleasurable activities in one’s life could be such a big undertaking, wrought with resistance and avoidance.

Five straight days is more than most people can muster up a daily act of pleasure. To my surprise, about fifteen women out of almost a hundred really went for it and reported their exuberant findings as well as their struggles with it.  I didn’t expect so many heartfelt, transparent, gorgeous descriptions of what they were facing, and was so impressed.

I’ve been practicing pleasure, studying about pleasure, and teaching pleasure in various forms over the years, and what I’ve come to learn is that our culture simply does not value it.  This fact alone can stop some women cold.  Some of the struggles in the pleasure challenge were feeling guilty, too busy serving others, and difficulty finding time alone to do something pleasurable in their hectic days.

A very few participants were already practicing infusing pleasure into their lives as a way to heal and nurture themselves. Women were sharing all of the ways they found pleasure in life, ways they created more, and desires for even more.  It was such a gorgeous thing to see women sharing and learning something so simple, yet so powerful.

There were deep realizations about how focusing on pleasure brought so much awareness of even more pleasure they’d never noticed.  Vibrancy, deserving, worth, and even profound joy unfolded.  New ideas, enthusiasm and even recipes for pleasure were shared.

I have no intention of closing this amazing group.  With women joining daily, asking me what it is and how they can participate,  we’ll continue to focus on pleasure.  We’ll encourage each other to keep up the important work of enjoying life, honoring our bodies, reveling in our femininity, and opening to receiving more abundance. I’m convinced that the gateway of gratitude is primed by pleasure.

~Goddess Oceana

How can you join the Goddess Pleasure Challenge group?  Follow this LINK and ask to join.

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