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Are You Riding The Spin Cycle Or Are You In The Dryer?

February 7, 2014

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Did you lose your mojo along the way, girlfriend?  I know I have before, and it’s hard to know when it’s going to hit.  That’s why I’d like to give you some tips, some delicious and fun ways that you can reach down deep in an instant, and hook up to your mojo again.

 
You know the feeling when you’ve suddenly realized you haven’t been turned on by anything in a while, you’re living in your head with to-do lists, stressing out over all that needs to get done and no time to do it?  There’s a part of our cycle I like to call the Dry Cycle.  We got wet and had a fabulously bubbly time in the hot agitation of Turn On a while back, and then danced so hard we were spinning with delight in the Spin Cycle.  And you know what comes after that!  Yes, we find ourselves in the heat of it, getting dried out inside of catching up with all those things we let go while we were joyfully wet, and the timer is on.
 
What’s a gal to do?  The mind likes to step in with Ms. Perfection and beat us up with all the things we let slide while we were happily merging with the sudsy juicy fun.  Now it’s time for payback, right?  Well, sisters, I say no way.  It’s time to celebrate the cycles of womanhood.  It’s all good and it’s natural.  The minute we begin to let the fierce critic have the reigns, it’s all over for our magic.  The way to keep our magical goddess energy alive and well is to honor the cycles.
 
HONOR THE CYCLES, baby!
Say you’re in the dryer, and then you’re crazy busy folding, organizing, and lining stuff up back into the drawers…is this wrong?  Heck no.  It’s perfect.  You are perfect.  In all of the divine and glorious ways that you show up in the world, you are absolutely divinely perfect.  Order is necessary.  It only becomes a problem when we fight our cycles and make each one wrong, which is an easy trap to fall into when the whole world is feeding us messages about how we need to fix ourselves.
 
Try this on for a week and let me know how it goes for you.  Decide that what you’re up to is perfect.  Enjoy it, and find yourself absolutely fabulous while you’re in it.  Laying on the couch feeling sorry for yourself?  A necessary evil, so indulge fully while you’re there, and congratulate yourself for knowing when you need a full out break.  Running a thousand errands all at once with no vacation in sight?  PERFECT.  Wear your favorite perfume while you do it, and know that you’re in the Dryer Cycle making a great foundation for your next sudsy washer adventure.  You get the gist.  Make yourself right, find it perfect, and see how the energy lifts and life gets fun again.
 
Now, tell me what cycle you’re in right now, in the comments below, and tell me why it’s absolutely perfect and what a genius you are!
 
~Goddess Oceana
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On Welcoming A Wisewoman

January 23, 2014

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A new humility has surfaced in me the last couple of years, a sort of surrender to the wise woman birthing herself in my being as I round the corner of menopause.  Pregnancy with this energy seemed to have lasted a slowly percolating decade, but when labor ensued, it was a force I had no previous awareness of, raw and fierce and gentle all at the same time.

 

Before where I had a sense of self, knowing exactly who I was and where I was going, this wise woman crone brought down some sort of unearthly axe and suddenly I was forgetful, weak when I wanted to be strong, stupid when I needed to be sharp, exhausted when I had to be on my game, bored when I would rather have been curious and enthusiastic.  This old dame was turning me upside down and inside out.

 

Nothing like a huge and uncomfortable change ever seems to happen at a good time, does it?!  And so, surrender was not only necessary, but inescapable.  The crone energy is Kali Ma Herself, Hindu goddess of sharp, grand, and furious awakening.  When I finally decided to surrender, it seemed that it would require a willingness to speak up, a need to educate the less initiated, and a bold-assed declaration of my boundaries that pissed people off.

 

I’m still in the throes of this, but can report that a sense of humor is crucial.  When I find myself in certain situations, it can be utterly unnerving if I don’t have the capacity to laugh at myself with others.  The other day I told my 13 year old to please get his bacon on and get out to the car so we wouldn’t be late.  Words I have spoken my whole life suddenly interchange, and I don’t even hear myself as they slide effortlessly out of my mouth.  He just stood there laughing hysterically, with me feeling a bit offended.  “What are you laughing at?” I inquired.  He told me what I had just said, and I was baffled.  Truly, I thought I told him to get his coat on.

 

My sweet husband will attest that he can tell me something, only to find me asking the same question an hour or a day later,  as if the conversation never happened.  At first, he thought I was messing with him.  I explain that this is what birthing a crone looks like, and he’ll have to try to remember that I require a bit more gentleness, a bit more tolerance, and a whole lot of patience until she emerges and this passage is complete.  I am welcoming a wise woman, and she is in the becoming.

 

Who is in your life that is at the crossroads of this powerful transformation?  In what ways can you support her, learn from her, honor her in holding a space for soft landing while she is birthing possibly the most compelling and courageous transformation she has ever met?  If you are in this stage, how do you hold yourself gently, and what are you celebrating about it?

 

I would love to hear your experience, your questions, your deep inquiries and gifts…feel free to share below.

 

~Goddess Oceana

http:/www.goddessoceana.com

 

 

 


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