Posts Tagged ‘gifting’

Why You Keep Getting Stuff You Don’t Want

December 7, 2013
 
Here come the holidays!  They’re right around the corner and as a woman striving to unleash her goddess on the world, how can you end up satisfied, filled up, and in a state of joyful pleasure this coming season?
 
I’ve been thinking on this lately as I release and declutter, feng shui and get clear about what I desire more of in my life.  It occurred to me that maybe noone else knows what I really want, and if this is the case, then how can they participate in the fun?  
 
We women are notorious for being coy when it comes to gifting, preferring to give rather than to receive, and hoping others, (specifically our significant others) can read our minds.  One of the best assignments I received when I studied with Mama Gena was to create a desire list and put it where people could actually see it.  It sounds simple enough, but did I do it? Not without discomfort and certainly not often enough.
 
You see, we have no one but ourselves to hold responsible when we want this or that fabulous sparkly new thing, and instead we receive another microwaveable heat pack for cramps or the same thing we asked for two years ago when we finally relented and told the truth.  Problem is, by now we’re over that gift and on to the next thing.
 
I don’t want you to think that this letter is only about what we can get, and how to get more material stuff.  I know it sounds like it so far.  The point is that to stretch our goddessly feminine muscles of receiving, we need to be willing to name what it is we want.  It begins with being willing to ask for the obvious, and then when we get more comfy with that, it spreads like butter into the bedroom, boardroom, and the world.
 
If we, as women, are going to heal the world, we have to heal ourselves first.  That means actually receiving the gifts the world wants to give us so badly, and taking responsibility for what we get.  We don’t get to complain if we get a lot of crap we don’t even want…because that will only attract more crap we don’t even want! 
 
The great news is that we do have the power to ask and it starts with tiny weights with only a few repetitions.  The muscles can build really fast, no worries.
 
Here’s some research for this week:
 
1.  Meditate for three minutes or more on this question:  What do I really, really want?
 
2.  Write it all down.
 
3.  Create a couple of lists with this information.  One list is your own private list of what you really want.  The next list is a bite-sized list that’s easily do~able by your partner or loved ones.  This second list will be POSTED on your refrigerator for ALL to see.
Just write:  “Stuff I Really Want” at the top and then number about 5 or 6 things you know your loved ones can deliver easily.  You can mention in passing that you realized noone knows what you want and you figured it would be great to let them know.  Leave it at that.  No pressure, no high expectations.
 
4.  BE APPRECIATIVE and express gratitude when someone delivers!!!
 
5.  Wait and see what happens and report back to me…I can’t wait to hear the details!
 
Enjoy playing with this exercise, and if you want more inspiration, come and follow me on facebook at Goddess Oceana fan page.  I post several tips and inspirations a week and would love to connect with you there.
 
~ Goddess Oceana

 http://www.GoddessOceana.com

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3 Basic Laws of Wealth Consciousness

October 13, 2013

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 Abundance has to be welcomed to show up.  This isn’t obvious if one isn’t aware of the principles of manifestation.  Today I thought I would go over just three of the various principles I’ve learned over the decades as a transformational teacher and healer.

 

  1. Be.  Beingness is the first step to manifesting anything.  Like attracts like in this universe, and so a scarcity mentality cannot possibly attract wealth and contain it for any period of time.  Practicing thinking, feeling, and behaving as if one is already wealthy is a crucial step to having an abundant life.
  2. Do.  Unlike some well-meaning but mistaken ideas out there, wealth doesn’t just come to those who haven’t generated the energy of wealth outwardly.  As water seeks its own balance, so it is with the flow of compensation.  One must begin to do things differently than they were doing them when they weren’t attracting what they wanted.  It’s a universal law that what one gives comes back to the receiver multiplied. To attract wealth, one must begin to give in wealthy ways.  Tithing is one way to do this.  Setting up a plan of action to consistently serve others is another.
  3. Have.  For some, this is the hardest way of being.  It involves being open to receiving.  You see, receiving and giving are the same energy, and so if one is unable to truly receive, they cannot truly give.  Checking in to see what the motive is underneath the giving can lend insights into the internal work that must be done to truly become a giver that is unattached to the gift.  A gift that’s done in expectation of reciprocal gifts is not a gift, it is an unspoken barter.  When there’s attachment to an act of gifting, there wasn’t any gifting happening.  Similarly, when one is unable to receive, the gift of the joy of giving is thwarted.  The person trying to gift you isn’t able to generate abundance in their own lives in relation to you.  Receiving and expressing gratitude to others and in one’s heart are acts of havingness that expand into wealthy ways of being.

 These are truly basic, quick ideas about wealth consciousness, but there is much more to these teachings.  Remembering that the order to abundance is to be, do, and have is a great start.

 

 

 

 


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