Posts Tagged ‘receive’

Speechless During Sex?

January 18, 2016

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Let’s get down to business, shall we?

Your pleasure plays a huge role in how empowered you are.  My mission is to teach you how to be a goddess, and goddesses are powerful.  One of the myriad teachings I share is how to live a pleasure-filled life, bask in sensuality, and enjoy the incredible benefits that come from such a badass lifestyle.

Before I became an empowered goddess, I was a shy, mute, lovely and good girl.  Unskilled and inexperienced sexually, I naively hoped for the best and mostly got the worst.  In those days, the only information available was in the few books we could find on the subject, magazines, and word of mouth.  All of it was sadly lacking, and we were hugely misinformed.

A big part of my awakening sexually happened when I discovered vibrators.  It changed my life.  Suddenly I was feeling things I hadn’t known I could feel.  In short, self pleasure became the key to understanding my body and in showing my lover what worked for me.  Years later, I became a sex educator for a well-known toy consultancy, and one of the themes we found most beneficial for women was teaching them that self pleasure is the key, in fact, to all women’s success in having optimal pleasure with lovers.

Many types of empowerment and sexuality trainings  later, what emerged was another aha… the absolute necessity of certain types of communication in bed.  Yes, we hear it and read it everywhere, but I have an idea that not everyone actually practices it.  Nor do they know how.

Here are a couple of tips on successful pleasuring communication:

  • Practice speaking up every time something feels good with describing exactly when and what, even if you don’t feel confident in doing so at first.  (Practice, practice, practice).
  • If something is not to your liking, instead of just laying a complaint on your partner, keep the passion flowing by first saying what did feel good or what you do like about them or what they’re doing, and follow with requesting what you want more of or  want different.
  • Keep breathing.  Holding your breath (which many do unconsciously when they’re revved up) constricts energy, inhibits communication, and freezes the response.  Just remember to breathe, and if you notice you stopped, start again with slower, longer breaths.  Short, shallow breath can also shorten orgasm.  Long, conscious breathing prolongs pleasure. Breathing can also be a way of communicating.  Even if we don’t realize it, we sense so much from another’s breathing patterns.
  • If all else fails, ask your lover to receive, and show them what you like by touching them they way you wish to be touched, kissed, or stroked.

Speaking up in bed can be so scary for some women, especially if past abuse or trauma is present.  Be gentle with yourself and start slowly, and celebrate every successful communication, no matter how small it may seem.  One tiny step at a time, over time, will reap huge rewards, I promise.

Juicy Goddess Blessings,

Goddess Oceana

Sensual Empowerment Goddess | Tantric Yogini | Shamaness Unlock the 7 Goddess Secrets every woman NEEDS

 

3 Basic Laws of Wealth Consciousness

October 13, 2013

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 Abundance has to be welcomed to show up.  This isn’t obvious if one isn’t aware of the principles of manifestation.  Today I thought I would go over just three of the various principles I’ve learned over the decades as a transformational teacher and healer.

 

  1. Be.  Beingness is the first step to manifesting anything.  Like attracts like in this universe, and so a scarcity mentality cannot possibly attract wealth and contain it for any period of time.  Practicing thinking, feeling, and behaving as if one is already wealthy is a crucial step to having an abundant life.
  2. Do.  Unlike some well-meaning but mistaken ideas out there, wealth doesn’t just come to those who haven’t generated the energy of wealth outwardly.  As water seeks its own balance, so it is with the flow of compensation.  One must begin to do things differently than they were doing them when they weren’t attracting what they wanted.  It’s a universal law that what one gives comes back to the receiver multiplied. To attract wealth, one must begin to give in wealthy ways.  Tithing is one way to do this.  Setting up a plan of action to consistently serve others is another.
  3. Have.  For some, this is the hardest way of being.  It involves being open to receiving.  You see, receiving and giving are the same energy, and so if one is unable to truly receive, they cannot truly give.  Checking in to see what the motive is underneath the giving can lend insights into the internal work that must be done to truly become a giver that is unattached to the gift.  A gift that’s done in expectation of reciprocal gifts is not a gift, it is an unspoken barter.  When there’s attachment to an act of gifting, there wasn’t any gifting happening.  Similarly, when one is unable to receive, the gift of the joy of giving is thwarted.  The person trying to gift you isn’t able to generate abundance in their own lives in relation to you.  Receiving and expressing gratitude to others and in one’s heart are acts of havingness that expand into wealthy ways of being.

 These are truly basic, quick ideas about wealth consciousness, but there is much more to these teachings.  Remembering that the order to abundance is to be, do, and have is a great start.

 

 

 

 


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