Posts Tagged ‘stress’

Are You Riding The Spin Cycle Or Are You In The Dryer?

February 7, 2014

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Did you lose your mojo along the way, girlfriend?  I know I have before, and it’s hard to know when it’s going to hit.  That’s why I’d like to give you some tips, some delicious and fun ways that you can reach down deep in an instant, and hook up to your mojo again.

 
You know the feeling when you’ve suddenly realized you haven’t been turned on by anything in a while, you’re living in your head with to-do lists, stressing out over all that needs to get done and no time to do it?  There’s a part of our cycle I like to call the Dry Cycle.  We got wet and had a fabulously bubbly time in the hot agitation of Turn On a while back, and then danced so hard we were spinning with delight in the Spin Cycle.  And you know what comes after that!  Yes, we find ourselves in the heat of it, getting dried out inside of catching up with all those things we let go while we were joyfully wet, and the timer is on.
 
What’s a gal to do?  The mind likes to step in with Ms. Perfection and beat us up with all the things we let slide while we were happily merging with the sudsy juicy fun.  Now it’s time for payback, right?  Well, sisters, I say no way.  It’s time to celebrate the cycles of womanhood.  It’s all good and it’s natural.  The minute we begin to let the fierce critic have the reigns, it’s all over for our magic.  The way to keep our magical goddess energy alive and well is to honor the cycles.
 
HONOR THE CYCLES, baby!
Say you’re in the dryer, and then you’re crazy busy folding, organizing, and lining stuff up back into the drawers…is this wrong?  Heck no.  It’s perfect.  You are perfect.  In all of the divine and glorious ways that you show up in the world, you are absolutely divinely perfect.  Order is necessary.  It only becomes a problem when we fight our cycles and make each one wrong, which is an easy trap to fall into when the whole world is feeding us messages about how we need to fix ourselves.
 
Try this on for a week and let me know how it goes for you.  Decide that what you’re up to is perfect.  Enjoy it, and find yourself absolutely fabulous while you’re in it.  Laying on the couch feeling sorry for yourself?  A necessary evil, so indulge fully while you’re there, and congratulate yourself for knowing when you need a full out break.  Running a thousand errands all at once with no vacation in sight?  PERFECT.  Wear your favorite perfume while you do it, and know that you’re in the Dryer Cycle making a great foundation for your next sudsy washer adventure.  You get the gist.  Make yourself right, find it perfect, and see how the energy lifts and life gets fun again.
 
Now, tell me what cycle you’re in right now, in the comments below, and tell me why it’s absolutely perfect and what a genius you are!
 
~Goddess Oceana
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Making Time For Pleasure

May 23, 2012

When everything is just too overwhelming and life seems to be racing in a zillion directions, how do you handle it? Do you drink more coffee, try to do more, stay up later, get up earlier, or break down? Do you let stress build and ignore it? Do you just stuff your face with sugar like I do?
It’s a huge challenge to stay focused and prioritized, and to make the time for rest and balance in these times. We have so many mediums of communication all vying for our attention, not to mention careers to work, families to tend to, functions to attend, plans to make, appointments to keep. The list goes on and the stress seems to mount, until we find ourselves either sick or in breakdown somehow.
I see many people who seem to wait until they’re sick for a small break, and then they jump back up before they’re even ready to go back into the ring for more. It’s scary to watch. I can’t help but wonder if they are truly happy, or just afraid to stop. For some, I’m sure that staying in the game full frontal brings them joy, but this isn’t not true for everyone.
The perfect antidote for stress is pleasure. Nothing gives us more of an “ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh” feeling. It doesn’t really take much if we learn to breathe and center our attention on our hearts, get present with the moment, and then feel into it. I don’t believe that pleasure can happen when our minds are racing in the opposite direction. Ever tried to completely relax while running? Doesn’t work that well, does it? You have to get the mind to stop, drag it back to where your body is and sync your system up with the now. Only then can you really be with whatever pleasure you’re offering yourself.
One of the more advanced routes to pleasure is associated with our sexuality, and in a pinch our sexuality can be channeled into any activity and then it becomes sensuality, which is highly pleasurable. Pleasure in eating something delicious, feeling the sun on your face, getting a shoulder rub, stretching, looking at beautiful art or photos, listening to gorgeous music…these are all so pleasurable. If we focus on feeling our bodies respond as we enjoy these activities, we are officially having a sensual experience. This is where the pleasure we are feeling can light up our brains, our groins, our whole physiology, and we are healing, opening, and receiving the relaxation and rejuvenation we crave.
In the book, The Pleasure Zone, Resnick lists the 8 fundamental pleasures as being primal, pain relief, play, mental, emotional, sensual, sexual, and spiritual. The last three can “be thought of as the consummate realms for reaching your pleasure potential”, she says.
Take some time out for pleasure today and if it feels good try it daily for a while. I would love to hear back from you how it affects your life.

 


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